In 2019 I feel like the least someone can do is communicate efficiently. Now, I know not everyone knows how to, or can’t always put their words together, but that doesn’t mean you can’t try. My biggest pet peeve is when I’m friends with someone and then that friend feels some type of way and doesn’t communicate. I’ve been blocked and ignored a few times. Why is this even a thing? I don’t understand.
I understand people say things that they may not mean in the heat of the moment. I’m one of those people, and I can say I am trying to improve on making sure I express how I feel to try and be as clear as possible without going from zero to sixty in 2.5. I also understand that sometimes depending on how friends are communicating (face to face, or texting) wires can get crossed. Facial expressions are misinterpreted or sometimes people take to heart what someone else says. I am not the best with my facial expressions, it’s a work in progress. Even still, if friendships have been had for months or years then I feel like these two parties should be able to argue, agree to disagree, and keep it pushing. It’s very disheartening when I become the person that’s blocked or I lose a friend because that person can’t tell me they have a problem with me. If we’ve been friends for some time then please speak up. It’s childish to me when people can’t communicate, especially when we’ve had numerous conversations. Throwing away a friendship or choosing to not hear the person out is unfair. I understand people may grow apart, but that’s totally different. I would never block someone and not at least explain how or why I’m feeling how I do. If myself and my friend can’t have a conversation and move on then that’s fine. People grow apart, but I can’t just block someone just because I maybe in my feelings. That’s something I would never do.
I guess it’s just another lesson learned. I can’t even tell you what I took away from this friendship, but thank you for allowing me to start writing again. Seriously. If people have a problem with you and they can’t communicate what it is then I feel like you can’t be the problem. If there’s a situation that needs to be discussed please tell me. I can’t fix or explain my side of the story if you chose to just erase me from your life.
Don’t reach out or try to explain how you felt later on. I don’t want to hear the shit. I don’t have the energy to try and make any relationship work with someone who doesn’t want to tell me before hand that they are bothered.
It’s not me, it’s you. Do better. Please and thank you.