What is it about how society portrays relationship goals that makes the rest of us think that’s what our relationships should be?
I can’t be the only one who loves to see those random videos of couples we don’t know confess their love for each other and re-post them. Or the videos from Valentines Day where the guy has a ton of flowers and balloons every where. You know, the cliche-esq photos and videos that we wished our spouses did for us. I can admit I love love, and I have reposted those same videos and pictures myself. The best ones are engagement videos. I get teary-eyed, and hope and pray my future husband does something ten times better. But, why?
I think for some people they share their love story because they want others to know that true love does exist. The issue for me becomes when people try to copy what they’ve seen; or they try to match what celebrities show as their relationship goals. Be original, or just be boring. Let the love story be yours, and let it be unique. Who cares what others may have to say about you and your spouse, or if it doesn’t get reposted and goes viral. It’s your relationship, not theirs. If you have a million snap chat pictures with filters as your year anniversary then post it and be proud! Or if you’ve taken the time to have this elaborate photo shoot with dolphins, and flowers, and the sun glistening down on you and your spouse then that’s great too.
Be your own relationship goals. It’s okay to want to have something like someone else, but not everything that glitters is gold. Understand that no relationship is perfect, and while you and I may love love no relationship is always sunshine and daises. You realize people only post the ‘good’ and never the ‘bad.’ We don’t see when couples argue, or things aren’t going how they should in the relationship. We emulate the good and forget that there is bad sometimes sprinkled in there too.
Take the time to build a relationship and chose to share with others because you want to, not because you think it’s what society thinks should happen. The best relationships are the ones where no one knows you and your spouses business. I’ve said it before, not everything is for social media. But, if you chose to post, let it be genuine and real.
Don’t do what society shows us what relationship goals are. Create your own and let that be your foundation. Don’t build your foundation on what you see others have. Every relationship and every spouse is different.
Get your own #relationshipgoals.
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I’ve had similar conversations with my friends.. since I have one the longest relationships between my friends I always get the I wish I had your relationship.. and my answer is always the same.. “no you don’t.. you should perfect your own relationship what works for us may not work for you”.. we should never aspire to mimick another relationship because it looks loving.. so do what’s best for your relationship stop putting so much emphasis on your relationship and just be.. I think so many relationships seem to fail because we look at others and say we want that.. and in turn put stress on your relationship and push the other person away.. so just be you in your own relationship..
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Yes ! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽